A SOLUTION FOR 'FIGHTS'

When the people in your family are fighting, it’s hard to figure out what to do.  You ,may be feeling sad, ashamed, or even angry when it happens.  Whatever your feelings are, what you probably want most is for the fighting to stop.

 

It can be pretty tough when your parents are fighting.  Remember, even people who love each other fight sometimes.  And just because they fight doesn’t mean they are going to stay mad for long.  It is natural for people who live together and spend a lot of time with each other to sometimes disagree and lose their tempers.  Just think of the last time you and your brother or sister got into a fight.  You didn’t really, mean all those things you said, did you? In the end, you probably made up.  The same goes for parents.

 

If you get really upset when your parents fight, you might want to talk to them about your feelings.  Sometimes, parents don’t realize that their arguing makes you feel upset.  If you tell them how you feel, they will probably try to stop or at least explain to you why they are disagreeing.  It is hard to believe it, but your parents were once kids, too.  It might seem like they don’t understand you but don’t give up.  Remember that they don’t really want to make things difficult for you. Your parents care about you, but sometimes its just hard for them to easily see your point of view.

 

Keep in mind, though that this can take time and a lot of patience.  Its not always easy.  Talking to your parents about your opinions instead of screaming and yelling at them will also make them listen to you a little more closely.  Plus you will gain respect and learn how to compromise with them.

 

If someone physically hurts you it is important to tell a parent.  It is also important to tell an adult you trust if your parent ever hurts you.  If you think your family needs to work on this, you could call a family meeting to talk about it.  In the meeting, every one should get a chance to talk and a chance to suggest solutions.  It is a good way to get every one working on the problems together.